Sisters may hate each other for a variety of different reasons.
Some sisters may just not like each other at all because they just don't get along and that is okay.
Sometime sisters hate each other because they are Jealous of the other sister or their sister is getting more attention than they are.
Many different things can cause siblings to fight. Most brothers and sisters experience some degree of jealousy or competition, and this can flare into squabbles and bickering.
But other factors also might influence how often kids fight and how severe the fighting gets.
To resolve sibling rivalry you need to tell the siblings that what they are doing is not okay and that they will get a timeout or grounding if the sibling fights and sibling rivalry does not stop.
Help the siblings to express their feelings and to understand and empathize with the feelings of their siblings.
Use time-outs, not to punish but to calm down and re-group.
Give older siblings privileges as well as responsibilities.
Help older siblings learn to ignore provocative behavior of younger siblings.
Other tips to prevent sibling rivalry include.
Stay calm, quiet and in control. Pay attention to what your kids are doing so you can intervene before a situation begins or escalates.
Create a cooperative environment.
Plan fun family time.
Treat kids fairly — not equally.
Parents can cause sibling rivalry if the parents are spending more time with the younger child or the new baby in the family.
Also fights between the parents can sometimes lead to sibling rivalry as well.
Sibling rivalry can start right from when the baby, the second child, is in the mother's womb. With the parents' attention mostly centered around the newborn, the elder sibling might start feeling neglected.
Again, parents may tend to play favorites among their children.
Stress in the parents' lives can decrease the amount of time and attention parents can give the children and increase sibling rivalry.
Stress in your children's lives can shorten their fuses, and decrease their ability to tolerate frustration, leading to more conflict.
Older siblings hate younger siblings most often because they think the younger siblings get more attention than they do which is usually quite true.
Most younger siblings get more attention from the parents than the older siblings do.
Younger siblings resent older ones because they are more capable and get more privileges.
Just about anything can ignite an aggressive attack and lots of tears.
The most common cause of sibling conflict is Jealously and Bitterness as well as lack of social skills.
The main causes of sibling rivalry are lack of social skills, concerns with fairness, individual temperaments, special needs, parenting style, parent's conflict resolution skills and culture.
But it's also common for siblings to be great friends on one day and hateful to one another on the next day.
Other common causes of sibling conflicts include.
Poor communication and conflict resolution skills during childhood.
Parents pitting their children against each other and comparing them to each other.
Unhealthy competition between siblings.
Sibling Rivalries are very common and a pretty normal part of growing up around other siblings.
Sibling rivalry has been identified as more common among children who are the same gender and close together in age.
Rates of sibling rivalry are lower in families where children feel they are treated equally by their parents and where their place in the family is respected and valued.
Statistically, sibling rivalry is indeed quite normal. It goes on in many or even most families with two or more children.
It is the rare family in which the children are always nice to each other.
All they need to do is read the stories of all the early families in the Bible to have their impression validated.
It is normal for siblings to physically fight and sometimes siblings may fight and say they hate each other when in fact they actually still love each other.
However if the fighting between the siblings continues or gets worse then something needs done to stop it.
Sibling rivalry is a normal, and mostly harmless, part of growing up.
Siblings often compete without anyone getting hurt.
Sibling violence or abuse can be described as a repeated pattern of physical aggression with the intent to inflict harm and motivated by a need for power and control.
The age at which most siblings fight the most is between the ages of 10 to 15 years old.
Although the fighting between siblings can start earlier than that and some siblings fight around age 4 to 8 years old and continue to fight.
As children get older, the way they interact is likely to change.
While younger children tend to fight physically, older children are more likely to have verbal arguments.
Competitiveness between siblings typically peaks between ages 10 and 15.
However, sometimes sibling rivalry can continue on into adulthood.
A toxic sibling is a sibling that is highly judgemental and overly critical of you.
When you have a toxic sibling you may often feel as though you can't do anything right because your sibling will 'nitpick' and find 'flaws' in you.
Toxic sibling relationships can result if parents are unavailable, depressed, aggressive, narcissistic, or controlling. In the Golden Child and the Black Sheep Dynamic, one child is favored over the others.
The Black Sheep is the scapegoat of the family.
Tips to deal with a toxic sibling include.
Set limits and boundaries.
Figure out the workarounds.
Don't fight too hard for it.
Establish an emotional boundary.
Acknowledge your truth.
Label the behaviors (or your feelings), not the person.
Communicate openly if it feels safe.
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.
If your toxic family continues to disrespect you, to ignore your boundaries, and to gaslight you, you have every right to cut ties.
You do, in fact, have the right to do this at any time, but many people wait until they realize the full impact of staying in these relationships.