A toxic mother's behavior is when the mother shows controlling, emotionally manipulative and neglectful actions, which undermine the child's self worth and stability.
The key traits of a toxic mother's behavior are violation of personal boundaries, constant criticism, playing the victim, and emotional unavailability.
These behaviors in a toxic mother often result in long term depression, anxiety and poor self esteem in the child.
Excessive control in toxic mother behavior is when the mother excessively dictates the child's life choices, even into the child's adulthood.
While some control and dictating of the child's life is required in a child's life, it can become excessive.
Also a toxic mother will often play the victim and blame the child for their own issues.
The mother will also create a chaotic and stressful environment through rapid mood swings and focus solely on their own feelings and dismissing of the child's needs.
A toxic mother will often also invade privacy and disregard the child's autonomy.
And a toxic mother will also use manipulation and guilt tripping and use emotional tactics to control decisions and foster dependency and the toxic mother will also often frequently make their child or children feel unworthy, inadequate or unloved.
These toxic mother behaviors will often result in children that struggle to set boundaries, suffer from low self esteem or feel like they're constantly trapped.
Dealing with a toxic mother will involve setting firm boundaries, managing expectations (accepting she may not change), limiting contact/information, prioritizing self-care, finding external support (therapist, friends), and practicing emotional detachment while focusing on your own healing and peace, which may even involve temporary or permanent estrangement if necessary.