The paradox of Solomon is the tendency for people to be more rational and wise when reasoning about the problems of others than when dealing with their own.
The paradox of Solomon is essentially the observation that we're often better advisors to others than we are at following or own advice.
The paradox is that people are much more likely to offer sound advice and solutions to other peoples problems, yet they still often struggle to apply the same wisdom and sound advice to their own situation or situations.
The reasons for the Paradox of Solomon include emotional distance, perspective and emotions.
A persons own emotional distress can cloud their own rational thinking and decision making.
And they may lack self awareness of their own blind spots, biases, or hidden motivations when it comes to their own problems.
And it's also easier for them to detach from someone else's emotional experiences and see the bigger picture objectively.
An example of the paradox of Solomon is that you might advise a friend to be more flexible and open or to compromise in a relationship, although you yourself still struggle to do the same in your own partnership.
Some techniques to escape and overcome the paradox include creating space from emotional reactions, seeking a broader perspective and acknowledging personal emotions without being overwhelmed.
The paradox of Solomon is named after King Solomon.
King Solomon was renowned for his wisdom but also his struggle with his own personal life and decision making.